dragonborntobewild:

Umm excuse me Binky you cissexist bastard.

^^^^^ DEED



To whom it may concern…

msamberhazard:

I need you to please read these words carefully and consider what I am saying.

I want to have you in my life but I have boundaries regarding people who make oppressive statements.

Ignorance is not a weakness but an opportunity to learn; please take this opportunity.

If you are willing to educate yourself, be open to effective communication and work to respect me then I would love to have you in my life. Otherwise, I am not willing to have a relationship.

In order for me to feel that you are respecting me I need for you to respect my chosen name and pronouns. My name is Amber, I am a womyn, and I use she/her pronouns. I need you to respect this or I cannot have you in my life.

Please read through the following information and try to process it before you respond. I have put them in an rough order that I think would be beneficial. I understand that some of these pieces can be snarky or confrontational but I need you to get past that and read.

I am doing this because I want you in my life. If I did not care about you I would just tell you to fuck off and skip this whole bit; being called out like this means I respect you enough to not just tell you you’re a fucking asshole and never speak to you again. Please work to educate yourself beyond the reading that I provide. Remember, it is not the job of an oppressed individual to educate you; you are responsible for your own education. If you cannot work to respect me and not be oppressive then I will tell you to fuck off and you will have no right to be surprised or offended; no fucks given.

The act of supporting someone means more than tolerating their presence and cherishing some vague idea that they probably don’t deserve to be murdered. Supporting a marginalized person means listening them when they say they need something, and taking their demands seriously.”

(This list is frequently expanded upon and contributions are welcomed)

This is a Note About Tone Policing

On Anger and Cissupremacy

Regarding “Cisphobia”

How Trans* People Use “DIE CIS SCUM!”

From one cis-lady to other cis-folk “Die cis-scum”

How to Respond to “DIE CIS SCUM!” Without Being Cis Scum

How to Listen: Respecting Marginalized Individuals

How to Deal with Being Called Out

How to Apologize

When an Oppressed Individual Says…

On the Difference Between Good Dogs and Dogs that Need a Newspaper Smack (an Analogy for Privilege)

So You Want to Be an Ally

Derailing for Dummies

Why Misgendering is Bad

“This is going to take some getting used to…”

Misogyny and Transmisogyny

TRANS WOMYN DO NOT BENEFIT FROM MALE PRIVILEGE!

13 Myths and Misconceptions About Trans Women (Part 1) / (Part 2)

Trans Women In Particular Have Always Waited…

Regarding the Whole “You’re So Brave,” Thing…

Unsupportive Statements from “Allies”

Can We Stop Using the Term Ally?

Mansplaining

On Manarchists and Misogyny

“When you say…”

“I am not a woman trapped in a man’s body…”

There is No Wrong Way to Have a Body

Not Your Mom’s Trans 101

Transmisogyny is Misogyny Against All Women

Words Not to Say

“If you’re a cis girl and say you wish you were a trans girl I will literally punch you in the face.”

What’s a Chaser?

“Becoming a Gendered Body: Practices of Preschool” (How Gender is Socially Constructed and Imposed on Children)

A Story on Gendering Children

Toilet Training

Why Gay Marriage DOES NOT FUCKING MATTER

TRANS* WOMYN ARE DISPROPORTIONATELY TARGETED FOR VIOLENCE! ESPECIALLY TRANS* WOMYN OF COLOR!

A Double Standard on Violence: Bashing is Fine, Self-Defense is Wrong

Hate Crime Charges Dismissed in Attack Against Trans Woman

If You Brutalize a Innocent Trans Woman the Police Will Commend You

2011 Transgender Day of Remembrance (List of Murdered; Read the Causes of Death):

(MAP) Of Reporting Nations, U.S. Has 2nd Highest Number of Murdered Trans People in the World

Even in Death Trans* People Don’t Get A Break (Transmisogynistic Sermon at Trans* Woman’s Funeral)

Injustice at Every Turn: A Report of the National [U.S.] Transgender Discrimination Survey

Trans People Don’t Fare Well in Latest European Study

An Argument for Safe Spaces

Most Americans Think LGB[T] People Already Have Employment Protection - THEY DON’T!

State by State Map of LGB[T] Employment Legislation

“I Was Fired From My Job Today For Being Transgender.”

Two Things To Remember When Discussing Transmisogyny (AKA: Why I Want Nothing To Do With Your Queer Community)

Queer People Not My People

Regarding Transmisogyny in “Feminist,” Communities

Feminism Needs To Be Repaired Before Trans* Women Feel Truly Welcome

CAFAB Trans* People Benefit From Transmisogyny; Stop Derailing and Denying Your Privilege!

“FTMTF” is Appropriative and Fucked Up

Trans people have often been described as those whose physical sex does not match the gender of their mind or soul. This explanation might make sense intuitively, but it is nonetheless problematic for transfeminism. To say that one has a female mind or soul would mean there are male and female minds that are different from each other in some identifiable way, which in turn may be used to justify discrimination against women. Claiming an essential gender identity can be just as dangerous as resorting to biological essentialism. 

Transfeminism believes that we construct our own gender identities based on what feels genuine, comfortable, and sincere to us as we live and relate to others within given social and cultural constraints. This holds true for those whose gender identity is in congruence with their birth sex, as well as for trans people. Our demand for recognition and respect shall in no way be weakened by this acknowledgment. Instead of justifying our existence through reverse essentialism, transfeminism dismantles the assumption that sex and gender ‘naturally’ cohere”

-Emi Koyama, “The Transfeminist Manifesto”

“I sit on a man’s back, choking him, and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that I am very sorry for him and wish to ease his lot by any means possible, except getting off his back.”

-Leo Tolstoy

❝ MASCULINITY AND FEMININITY, WHEN TAKEN AS MENTAL PROPERTIES RATHER THAN PHYSICAL CONDITIONS MUST BE DUMPED BY ANYONE WHO CARES ABOUT PEOPLE. ‘FEMININITY,’ HAS BEEN USED TOO, TOO LONG TO RIP OFF WOMEN AND SENSITIVE MEN, AND ‘MASCULINITY,’ HAS BEEN MISUSED TO THE EXTENT OF RIPPING OFF THE WHOLE WORLD (MEN BEING THE CORPORATION HEADS AND WAR-MAKERS AND WOMEN—MINORITY ECOLOGY OPPRESSORS). I’M NOT TALKING ABOUT INDIVIDUALS SO MUCH AS CONCEPTS. IF ‘FEMININITY,’ AS A CONCEPT IS OPPRESSIVE TO WOMEN, IT IS, BY ITS VERY NATURE, OPPRESSIVE FOR MEN. IF ‘MASCULINITY,’ AS A CONCEPT (FEAR OF SHOWING EMOTIONS, SOCIAL IRRESPONSIBILITY, HYPER-COMPETETIVENESS) IS DAMAGING TO MEN, IT WILL DAMAGE WOMEN AS WELL. THESE TWO ARE SOCIALLY SET TRAPS. ❞ 

 -Lou Sullivan
 

“Wilhelm Reich put forth an interesting theory in his lectures to young
Communists in Germany in 1936, during the rise of Hitler. Reich
theorized that without the suppression of sexuality and the imposition
of anti-sexual morality, you could not have an authoritarian
government, because people would be free from shame, and would trust
their own sense of right and wrong. Such people are unlikely to march
to war against their wishes, and we would like to think they would be
unlikely to agree to operate the death camps too. It is interesting to
think that if we were raised without shame and guilt about our desires,
we might be freer people in many ways.” 

 -The Ethical Slut

“What’s feminist about excluding an extremely vulnerable class of women who disproportionately suffer from violence, rape, body shaming, unemployment, homelessness, and poverty, who are routinely abused and manipulated by the medical establishment, and who are disproportionately involved in sex work and pornography?

That’s what I’d like to know about Raymond-esque ‘feminists’ who see no place in the movement for trans women.”

-Asher Bauer

 A GAY ELITE HAS HIJACKED QUEER STRUGGLE, AND POSITIONED THEIR DESIRES AS EVERYONE’S NEEDS — THE DOMINANT SIGNS OF STRAIGHT CONFORMITY HAVE BECOME THE ULTIMATE SIGNS OF GAY SUCCESS. SURE, FOR WHITE GAYS WITH BEACH CONDOS, COUNTRY CLUB MEMBERSHIPS, AND NICE STOCK PORTFOLIOS WITH A COUPLE HEDGE FUNDS THAT NEED TRIMMING EVERY NOW AND THEN (THINK OF ROSIE O’DONNELL OR DAVID GEFFEN), MARRIAGE MIGHT JUST BE THE LAST THING STANDING IN THE WAY OF FULL CITIZENSHIP, BUT WHAT ABOUT FOR EVERYONE ELSE? 

-Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

“Let yourself be angry. Let yourself be angry that the price for visibility is the constant threat of violence, anti-queer violence to which practically every segment of this society contributes. Let yourself feel angry that there is no place in this country where we are safe, no place where we are not targeted for hatred and attack, the self-hatred, the suicide - of the closet. ”

-Queer Nation Manifesto

“Trans people are told by the law, state agencies, private discriminators, and our families that we are impossible people who cannot exist, cannot be seen, cannot be classified, and cannot fit anywhere. We are told by the better-funded lesbian and gay rights groups, as they continually leave us aside, that we are not politically viable our lives are not a political possibility that can be conceived. Inside this impossibility, I argue, lies our specific political potential—a potential to formulate demands and strategies to meet those demands that exceed the containment of neoliberal politics. A critical trans politics is emerging that refuses empty promises of “equal opportunity” and “safety” underwritten by settler colonialism, racist, sexist, classist, ableist, and xenophobic imprisonment, and ever-growing wealth disparity. This politics aims to center the concerns and leadership of the most vulnerable to build transformative change through mobilization. It is reconceptualizing the role of law reform in social movements, acknowledging that legal equality demands are a feature of systemic injustice, not a remedy. It is confronting the harms that come to trans people at the hands of violent systems structured through law itself—not by demanding recognition and inclusion in those systems, but by working to dismantle them while simultaneously supporting those most exposed to their harms.”

-Dean Spade, Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law, p 41




  • Cis people: Hey I just met you but tell me about your genitals
  • Cis people: Hey I just met you but justify non-cis gender identities to me without using any specific nomenclature and in at most ten sentences
  • Cis people: Hey I just met you but let me tell you about how much you do or don't pass and let me point out what specific characteristics hurt your passing
  • Cis people: Hey I just met you but I'm going to stare at you
  • Cis people: Hey I just met you but let me tell you how much I "support" you
  • Cis people: Hey I just met you but
  • Cis people: Hey I just met you but
  • Cis people: Hey I just met you but
  • Cis people: Hey I just met you but
  • Cis people: Hey I just met you but how old are you because you don't look old enough to be a male in college *every random parent of every random person I've never met before at my school for every event*


i had a bladder infection, 4 doctors had to come look at my junk… 4!!! YOU DONT NEED 4 DOCTORS TO INSERT A CATHETER! 

i had a bladder infection, 4 doctors had to come look at my junk… 4!!! YOU DONT NEED 4 DOCTORS TO INSERT A CATHETER! 



[TW for transphobic slurs] Fun with pop stars.
  • Katy Perry: You can’t be a full tranny every day of the week. That’s an exaggerated part of my personality.
  • Lady Gaga: I just don't feel that it's all that sexy. It's weird. And uncomfortable. I look at photos of myself, and I look like such a tranny! It's amazing!
  • Ke$ha: Freaks are what make everything mildly more interesting in life but with trannies, they make me want to be a better woman. I see these men who have way better bodies than I do, more beautiful faces, better complexions, beautiful makeup, and they're more fun than any person I've met in my life. They make me feel like I'm not a very good woman.